Is it really bad luck to sleep in the same bed on your wedding day eve? We say “no”

For those who are superstitious or traditional, spending the night apart from your fiancé(e) the day before your wedding is a no brainer. The decades old belief is that you will have back luck in your marriage if you see each other right before the ceremony.

But these days, more and more couples are throwing traditions out the door and doing things their way when it comes to their wedding — including sleeping in the same bed the night before they say “I do.”

At the end of the day, your decision should make sense for you logistically, feel right for you and your future spouse and give you the beauty sleep you need for one of the most important days of your life.

Here are the choices past brides have made.

Your fiancé(e)

There’s nothing wrong with choosing to sleep next to one on your wedding day eve. Many couples have done it, and are just fine (this message is especially for those who are superstitious).

Some have no choice but to spend the night together because of money or logistics. Other couples feel it’s more romantic to have one last meal or coffee together the morning of their nuptials. We’ve heard of couples who say they know they’ll get a better night’s rest with their significant other by their side rather than someone else or alone.

Your best friend

Like your maid-of-honor, a close relative or maybe your parents. Some couples who choose to spend the night apart don’t want to be alone — so they’ll ask their ride-or-die or relative to keep them company. It can be sentimental to spend your wedding day eve with someone you’re close with. After all, it’s your last night being single.

You may also need someone to cheers with or maybe lean on if you’re experiencing wedding jitters.

You’ve put a lot of work into this day and everyone is showing up for you — there’s nothing wrong with feeling a little nervous about pulling off your dream wedding and saying “I do” to your best friend. We’re all for spending the night with one of your best friends who gets you and knows what you need.

A slumber party

There are brides who want to spend their wedding eve with a group of the most important women in their lives, including their mom, siblings and even in-laws.

We’ve heard of brides planning a day at the spa together before heading home for some wine and Netflix. There’s something to be said about surrounding yourself with love and support from the women of your past and future.

Family

Maybe you want to spend the night with relatives, including your parents, grandparents, siblings or even cousins. For people who choose this option, they feel the more the merrier. Just remember that you can get enough sleep for the next day.

Alone

There are people who just need to be alone in bed in order to get a good night’s rest or calm their nerves. You can also choose to stay the night in someone else’s home (like your best friend’s/parent’s house), and hop into bed by yourself so you’re technically not “alone.”

For our wedding eve, my husband stayed in his childhood bedroom and spent quality time with his parents and grandmother. It was a special night for him. My sister and best friend stayed with me. They helped with last-minute wedding planning, and then we sat on the couch talking about my journey to the aisle.

I got enough sleep, and was ready to seize my wedding day. Whatever you choose, do what feels right to you and your future spouse.

Written By Vows & Forever Founder and Veteran Journalist Maria Cid. V&F is a wedding vows & speech writing service that also specializes in speech coaching and wedding timeline coordination.